Free relationship quizzes

Rhys Lewis - Relationship Therapist

This is the central place to find every free relationship quiz on my website. Use it when you want a clear starting point - whether you need a fuller overview or a short specialist self-check quiz.

Each quiz is an educational self-check of relationship patterns, designed to give research-based clarity you can act upon.

They are for adults in romantic relationships who want honest language about issues within their relationship.

Free Relationship Health Check

Free Relationship Health Check - clinical-style relationship overview quiz

The fuller clinical-style overview across more areas of relationship health. Best when you want the broader picture of strengths and friction, not only one theme. About 10-15 minutes.

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Specialist quizzes

Short focused self-checks (about 3-5 minutes). Instant scores. No email required to see results.

Four Horsemen Relationship Quiz - Gottman criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling

Four Horsemen Relationship Quiz

Measures Gottman's high-risk conflict patterns: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. About 3-5 minutes.

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Toxic Relationship Quiz - red flags around criticism, control, hostility and neglect

Toxic Relationship Quiz

A red-flags self-check around criticism and contempt, control, hostility and deception, and emotional neglect. About 3-5 minutes.

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Am I the Problem Quiz - constructive relationship self-check

Am I the Problem Quiz

A constructive look at your own patterns: criticism and scorekeeping, accountability and repair, space and control, withdrawal and honesty. About 3-5 minutes.

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Am I Too Critical Quiz - criticism habits self-check on a school-run morning

Am I Too Critical Quiz

Specialist depth on criticism habits: complaint vs criticism, contempt and put-downs, scorekeeping and old wounds, harsh start-up and fair listening. About 3-5 minutes.

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Woman lying on a bed at night looking at her phone, with a man's jacket on a chair seen through the doorway - Am I in a situationship quiz

Am I in a Situationship? Quiz

A clarity check for an undefined connection: commitment and "what are we", future talk and plans, consistency and reliability, and effort and priority balance. About 3-5 minutes.

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How to choose which quiz

Best if: you want the fuller picture across more relationship areas.

What helps: take the Relationship Health Check first (about 10-15 minutes).

Best if: arguments feel stuck, escalate fast, or you keep hearing the same fight.

What helps: the Four Horsemen Relationship Quiz for criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.

Best if: you are wondering about harsh, controlling or neglecting red flags.

What helps: the Toxic Relationship Quiz for a fast snapshot - not a permanent label.

Best if: you keep asking "am I the problem?" and want a fair look at your own habits.

What helps: the Am I the Problem Quiz - constructive self-check, not a character verdict.

Best if: you specifically wonder whether you are too critical - global labels, sarcasm, scorekeeping, or harsh openers.

What helps: the Am I Too Critical Quiz - criticism specialist, not a broad four-domain self-check.

Best if: you are in an undefined connection and keep wondering "what are we?" - no agreed label, exclusivity or shared plans.

What helps: the Am I in a Situationship? Quiz - a clarity check on commitment, future plans, consistency and effort balance, not a verdict on either of you.

For more reading after a quiz, see Rhys's best relationship advice books reviews.

Not sure where to start?

Begin with the fuller Health Check for the broader picture, then use a specialist quiz if one theme stands out.

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Common questions about free relationship quizzes

What free relationship quizzes does The Relationship Clinic offer?

List: Relationship Health Check; Four Horsemen Relationship Quiz; Toxic Relationship Quiz; Am I the Problem Quiz; Am I Too Critical Quiz; Am I in a Situationship? Quiz.

Meaning: one longer clinical-style overview, plus five short specialist self-checks. All designed by relationship counsellor Rhys Lewis MSc PgDip.

What is the Relationship Health Check quiz?

Meaning: the fuller clinical-style overview across more areas of relationship health than the short specialist quizzes.

Best if: you want a broader picture of strengths and friction, not just one theme.

Time: about 10-15 minutes. Take the Free Relationship Health Check.

When should I take the Health Check instead of a specialist quiz?

Specialist quiz: when you already know the question (Four Horsemen for conflict style, toxic for red flags, Am I the Problem for your own patterns, Am I Too Critical for criticism depth, Situationship for an undefined connection) and want a 3-5 minute snapshot.

Health Check: when you want the fuller overview across more relationship areas, or you are not sure which specialist angle fits yet.

Which quiz should I take if I think I might be the problem?

Best if: you keep asking whether your habits are adding fuel to conflict.

What helps: the Am I the Problem Quiz - criticism and scorekeeping, accountability and repair, space and control, withdrawal and honesty.

Important: it is a constructive self-check, not a verdict that you are broken, and not a reason to own a partner's abuse or coercion.

What is a Four Horsemen relationship quiz measuring?

Meaning: how often Gottman's four high-risk conflict patterns show up - criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.

Best if: arguments feel stuck or escalate fast and you want a clear research-based snapshot of communication habits.

Take the Four Horsemen quiz or read the sample results explained.

What is a toxic relationship quiz for?

Meaning: a short red-flags self-check - on this site: criticism and contempt, control and manipulation, hostility and deception, and emotional neglect.

Best if: you are wondering whether harsh, controlling or neglecting patterns are becoming the norm.

What it is not: a legal finding, clinical diagnosis or permanent character label. Take the Toxic Relationship Quiz.

Which quiz should I take if I am too critical of my partner?

Best if: you specifically wonder about global labels, sarcasm or eye-rolling, scorekeeping, or harsh openers.

What helps: the Am I Too Critical Quiz - criticism specialist depth (not the broader Am I the Problem four-domain check).

Which quiz should I take if I think I am in a situationship?

Best if: you are seeing someone without an agreed label, agreed exclusivity or a clear shared future, and you keep wondering "what are we?"

What helps: the Am I in a Situationship? Quiz - a clarity check across commitment and "what are we", future talk and plans, consistency and reliability, and effort and priority balance.

Important: it describes how defined and mutual the connection feels right now - not a verdict on you or on them. If someone frightens, controls or pressures you, that is not ambiguity - put your safety first.

Are these quizzes a diagnosis?

No. These quizzes are educational self-checks of relationship patterns, not a clinical diagnosis, medical assessment or formal therapy evaluation.

What scores mean: a private snapshot of how you answer today - habits to notice, not a character verdict.

Safety: if you feel unsafe, treat safety first (in the UK call 999 in immediate danger, or a domestic abuse helpline).